FoodForThought

What are some qualities of a good man???

More times than none we forget to tell you men that are doing a great job with raising your family, providing not just financial support but emotional support to your children,and giving back to the community that we appreciate you. Well today I say "Thank you"!!!

Ladies yes,it's hard dating and never knowing what you are getting.Trust me I went on a blind date and the man's voice sounded like and sos pad scracthing up against a pot,I still don't know what he said. Some things we should look for are:

1. Personality: Nobody's perfect but some guys have a good personality. They are nice,a great sense of humor,respect for himself and others, a fair amount of intelligence, a fair amount of maturity, good self-esteem, and a generally positive attitude about life. When a man is nice to everybody, but especially to his woman, ladies you should consider him a potential mate.

2. Physically Attractive: Come on now we are all visual creatures and we love to be around people who take care of their bodies. I'm not saying that looks are the most important thing but it is the first thing you see. You will never get a second chance to make a first impression.Having a good body and knowing how to dress are real assets for any man to have. And good grooming, just puts "icing on the cake". A well-groomed man wears his hair to suit his face, shaves on a regular basis, and knows which colognes enhance his aura.(nothing like a good smelling man)

Now men we don't want you to spend more time in the mirror or gym than you do on your spiritual being. We don't want a man that works out so much that his head shrinks as his muscles get bigger.(that is just nasty,we don't need to see veins).

3. Chemistry: It is an important factor in every relationship, whether you are soul-mates or just good friends. In other words what is it about a certain man that we find so appealing? We all know that man who just "really turns us on", and when the chemistry is right, we know we turn him on too. Without chemistry or that certain "sex appeal" we would not be attracted to each other. When he smiles or looks at you,he makes you want to hug,kiss, or take him wherever you are. Ladies not fall for the okie dokie and stay with a man just because you are both sexually attracted to each other. At the end of the day when sex fizzes you will need to something to talk about.

4.Same Interest. Ladies lets face it, we all want a man who liked what we like. This doesn't mean that he needs to sit down every Sunday and watch Desperate housewives with you.some of you will like going out and partying, while others prefer quiet evenings at home. Some of you like sports, while others prefer a good movie. The point is no matter what we like, our perfect mate will do some of these things with us, at least some of the time.

Ladies FYI it is not cute to be clubbing every weekend and hanging with your girls more than your man. Show interest in things he likes. If you know he likes to watch football on Sunday. Get up and make him some wings,buy him some beer, make him some snacks and sit down with him (don't annoy him wth 101 question) and enjoy the game. Seeing your man happy should make you happy.

Lets be real ladies some of you have set your standards so high that no man will never live up to what you want.You are always complaining about attracting losers, well maybe you should step back and re-evalute what you are giving out if you are attracting them.

Ladies I love you but step back and let a man be a man.Let him take the lead. Allowing a man to lead is not saying that you are any less of a woman. A real independent,strong lady knows how to let a man lead without feeling insecure with her position in the relationship.

Ladies most importantly love yourself before you ask him to.